Who do you think you are
What about me?
So, how does all this make you feel better? Well, once you realise that beauty as it's promoted to women through adverts and magazines is purely transient, and somebody else's ideal of what looks good at the time, you can start thinking of why you are beautiful - and unique.
We all have off days, where nothing we seem to do looks right. Every woman knows what a 'bad hair day' or a 'fat day' is, and how they can make you feel rotten all day, convinced that everybody else is looking at you because you have dodgy hair or your jeans are just a smidge too tight. But you know what? Most people aren't. In truth, most people are so wrapped up in their own fat days, or to-do lists, or whatever else is on their mind, that your hair or size really aren't an issue to them. It's very unlikely that they will stop dead at the sight of a spot that you think needs its own postcode. In fact, it's also extremely unlikely that if you go out feeling absolutely spot on, drop dead gorgeous and that you could take on the world that anyone is really going to notice as they go about their business. It's a fact of life, the only person that really matters when it comes to how you feel about yourself and your appearance... is you.
The only person that matters
It's corny, but if you feel good about yourself, you will radiate a confidence that attracts people to you, whether you look like Jennifer Lopez or woke up feeling more like her husband, Marc Anthony. Have you ever noticed that it's usually people who are on diets or hung up about their own weight who make negative comments about the weight of other women? There's a reason for that - projection. They are simply projecting the way they feel about themselves onto other people, and if you're honest, does listening to their critical comments really make you feel any better about your spare tyre? Of course it doesn't.
When appearance is important
You really do attract back what you give out, so even in a situation where image and appearance are important, like a first date, or a job interview, use the power of your mind to convince yourself that you feel great, and turn your attention to the person you're about to meet. For example, the first date. You've already established that the guy likes you. He may have already met you, or you've been talking online, but you've established that there's an attraction. So go with it. Believe that you are adorable, and sail into the place you've agreed to meet with a smile on your face, knowing that this is going to be a great evening, whatever the outcome.
Don't focus on what he thinks of you - assume he already thinks you're great and focus on him. Do you like the guy? Do you enjoy his company? Can you talk to him? Is he interesting? Are you physically attracted to him? Be interested in what he has to say, and don't be tempted to be self deprecating if he compliments you. If he says you look nice, don't you dare reply, "What, me? I thought I looked a mess and it took me ages to find something that fits me"; - just smile, and reply "Thank you."; Compliment him back if you feel like it. Don't throw his compliment back at him - it's just rude, and very boring.
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